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Elderly mother’s friend pressures her to donate money

Dear Amy: My husband and I manage my mother’s finances. She’s 88 years old. After my father died a decade ago, she began to donate to dozens of charities, beyond what she could afford. Anyone that solicited her typically got a donation. In some cases, there were recurring donations coming from her checking account that she didn’t even remember setting up in the first place.

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Family grabs credit for younger generation’s achievements

Dear Amy: Can you resolve a family debate? Whenever my niece or nephew (they are my brother’s kids) do something great (get into a top college, win a scholarship, look beautiful in a picture, become the top football scorer) my dad and my sisters and I all say something to them like, “You got that from our side of the family” or “You got that from me,” or “You are smart because of us.”

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Wedding brings on family fears

Dear Amy: My daughter is getting married in a month and I am AFRAID of seeing my ex-husband. We were married for 32 years. He was abusive on several levels: sexual, financial, verbal and physical. He is capable of violence, and is a gun owner.

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Wife wants to spend down retirement nest egg

Dear Amy: Dear Amy: My wife of almost 40 years and I are in our early 70s. We are retired and live comfortably on two pensions and two Social Security checks. From day one, I was the one responsible for major expenses (e.g., mortgages, insurances, investments, etc.) and she had shown no interest in our finances. It’s important to note that we have no children and are debt free.